If this is failure, then what would winning look like?


You put down your tablet and head upstairs to bed. Already thinking about how little you’re actually going to sleep tonight; you begin mulling over the day’s events. You’re talking with a potential new client, but you’re worried that they will choose to work with a competing business instead of with you. Thinking back over the meeting, you come up with  a dozen things you should have done or said differently. You begin to toss and turn, so you pull your mind to something else. Your daughter is at camp for part of the summer for the first time, and you start to worry about her. Is she having fun? Does she miss her family? Why doesn’t she call more often? The bed begins to become uncomfortable.

By morning you have gotten next to no sleep. You’re tired and dragging even after two cups of coffee. By the time you’ve arrived at work, you have a headache, and you’re still pondering the same things you were last night. You meet with that new client, and your frazzled attitude comes through loud and clear. You are obviously tired and flustered. You do not make a good impression, and the client takes their business elsewhere. To make things even worse, you spend the rest of your day kicking yourself for the events of the morning, so your stress and anxiety begin to mount higher and higher.


The power of thinking.


Does this scenario sound familiar? Have you ever noticed that the more you worry, the more the things you’re constantly thinking about tend to happen? This is because you can’t get to where you want to be without thinking it first.

Belief is a powerful thing, and if you believe that you will fail, you will do just that. If, however, you believe that you will win, and you flip those negative thoughts and worries around to be positive, you will find that you succeed more and more.

Changing your thought patterns.

In order to change failure in to winning, you first need to figure out what beliefs you hold. If, for example, you think that you always say something to a client that makes you sound less knowledgeable, you need to flip that thought around. Instead, you can tell yourself that you always appear to be very knowledgeable and aware of your clients’ needs and goals. Do you see what happens? Immediately, some of your stress disappears, you are less anxious, and your work with that client becomes easy and relaxed.




You put your tablet down and head upstairs for bed. You have had a productive day, and you know you will get a healthy amount of sleep to be prepared for the morning. As you lie down, you think back over this morning’s meeting. You believe that you showed your potential new client that you are knowledgeable, open, and willing to work with them to meet their goals. You know that you have plenty of experience working with clients like this one, and your expertise makes you the perfect fit for them. Just as you fall asleep, you think of your daughter. She is at camp for the first time and must be having a ball. She hasn’t called complaining of homesickness at all, and you are so proud of the way she is handling herself.

In the morning, you wake up, get your coffee, and drive to work. You are awake and pleasant. When you meet with your new client, they agree to work with you because you seem like the best fit for their needs,. With your mind at ease, you continue to have a positive day at work, and return home at the end of the day feeling content.


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Written By Crystal Lynn